Greetings, salutations, peace, and love be upon who’s reading this.
Life’s already tough so there’s no point in making it even tougher. Ideally, I want us to live unapologetically, take it moment by moment, and enjoy the journey of life. But realistically speaking, it’s truly a struggle, but doable, somehow. It’s especially more difficult as a woman, person of color, or someone who doesn’t fit into the typical societal standard of not being the “respectful” woman.
What is yet to be shared is my unsolicited perspective that no one asked for, but I’m going to share it anyway because I want to ;) Lately, my thoughts have gotten the best out of me, so I decided to pour them out in words. I want to create a safe space for myself and others to share freely without any judgment while feeling connected and empowered. My ultimate goal is to continuously strive to see moments of vulnerability as a vehicle of growth and perseverance. The plan is we shall do that together :) so buckle up and get ready to reflect, manifest, put yourself first, and get out there.
We women hold so much power. We literally bring life into this world, so we can totally take it back ;) Collectively, we need to start investing in ourselves and working to diminish our subconscious negative self thought and doubt. It’s terribly discouraging and degrading when people can’t be supportive and excited towards our female success. Why is it that we women have to obscure our accomplishments in order to be accepted? Is it because we’ll attack your egos? Or are you scared we’ll overpower you? I personally don’t know the answer and I’m still trying to figure it out, but most likely won’t come to a conclusion anytime soon. From the bottom of my heart, I strongly wish we can all be happy for each other so we’re able to rise TOGETHER as a commUNITY!
But, guess what?! We don’t need your validation or support because we will make an effort to be with the people who choose, appreciate, and value us.
Now is the time that we, women, get out there, like seriously, right now. We need to:
1. Put on our oxygen masks first — take the utmost care of our mental and physical health because it’s the pillar of our lives. Let me tell you something, it’s not selfish to put yourself first. Actually, it’s brave of you, because when you show up for yourself you’ll be able to show up for others.
2. Stop saying sorry for something we shouldn’t feel apologetic towards. Women are wired to automatically say “sorry” in almost every phrase. We need to stop giving others the chance to belittle and make us feel sorry. Personally, I’m guilty of the constant “sorry” spitting trap until I read “Girl, Stop Apologizing” by Rachel Hollis. It truly transformed my perspective on the word and its possible hindrance. If you need to remove that word from your dictionary, this book is a must-read ASAP!
3. Don’t feel the urge to mask our successes in front of men or people who don’t seem to respect and cheer on our drive. Friend, it’s just a sign that you shouldn’t be around them. They’re probably intimidated and astounded by your achievements because they can’t see themselves in that position. Stop limiting your potential to fit those or get back at egocentric people. It’s about time you live life for yourself; liberate your thoughts from those who don’t radiate any value into your life. Get on it, boss b*tch.
4. Ask for advice and feedback. It’s critical for self-improvement, but of course, some might see the thought of asking coming from a lack of self confidence. Don’t worry about them. Please continue getting insight on how you can improve. Let me tell you something, actually, it’s a reflection on their end. They are the ones insecure and scared to hear the truth from others. We all have flaws and are uniquely perfect, so ask away!!
We are our greatest assets. The more we devote to self-education, self-care, immersing ourselves in meaningful connection and conversation, and being with those who appreciate us, we will flourish.
Embark on a life that pleases you while simultaneously making the most impact that you can. It’s going to be hard, but, my dear reader, you have the power it takes. You just need a little spark and boom; you will accomplish what’s on your mind! Do not underestimate your impact on this world, because even if they’re a small act of kindness or positive influence, they will gradually accumulate in the long run.
Be a boss b*itch. According to Urban Dictionary, be the woman that:
- “Is confident, successful, and independent who stands for what she believes”
- “Keeps it 100% real, sets boundaries, and isn’t afraid to go after what she wants”
- “Her dreams are big, but ambition is bigger” (women, please bring your dreams to fruition)
- “Advocates for the empowerment of women and knows a strong mindset is for the betterment of everyone and the world around her”
- “A force to be reckoned with and can be intimidating from afar, but once you get to know her you’ll realize she can be friendly and your own cheerleader”
My strong, phenomenal, boss lady, I’m pleading you to put yourself where your energy is reciprocated, celebrated, and appreciated. We only live once so let’s make the best out of ourselves by surrounding ourselves with judgment-free people and those who allow us to exude the best of us. If you don’t have a strong support system, put yourself out there and find those people, immediately. You might and will embarrass yourself, but in the long term, it’s worth it. All the best for you on this journey of life!
P.S. sending you all my love and good vibes your way. Take care ❤
More Kheira thoughts yet to come… :)